Should I Ask Him To Cancel His Trip?

Friday | January 29, 2016

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Should I Ask Him To Cancel His Trip?

I have been dating a wonderful guy for the past few months and truly have no complaints. He is the sweetest guy I have ever dated. We’ve met each other’s parents and siblings, and things have been going very well. The only important people he has not met in my life are my cousins, who are like sisters to me. We don’t get together much due to work schedules and distance (they live five hours away), but they finally planned a weekend to visit me. I was so excited to have them meet my boyfriend – I can’t stop raving about him.

When I told him the dates they were coming, he said he already had plans that weekend with his friends to go to Vermont, where we all just went last weekend. He offered to cancel and stay home but sounded hesitant. I told him not to cancel. Is it wrong of me to ask him not to go with his friends so he can meet my cousins? I’m not sure of the next time we could all get together, and I don’t want to be a needy girlfriend who makes him choose me or his friends, but it’s a very important weekend to me.

– Should he stay or should he go

Don’t ask this guy to cancel his trip. There will be plenty of opportunities for him to spend time with your cousins, assuming the relationship continues to thrive.

It sounds like you have a checklist of all of the people you want him to meet, and that you expect him to get through every name in a certain amount of time. I want you to ask yourself why. You’re probably just excited that you like him so much, but you have to remind yourself that there’s no rush here. You should hit these benchmarks organically, and some might take time. You don’t have to turn every family event into a show-and-tell.

Let your boyfriend know that you’ll enjoy the weekend without him – because you will.

Readers? Should he cancel the trip?

– Meredith

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You already asked him not to cancel. Don’t tell him to change his plans now. Enjoy the weekend with your cousins, and make plans for them to meet him at some other time.

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