Hmm. There are plenty of high-profile legal cases to guess about these days. One in particular, locally.

Are you connected to this woman in real life, by degrees of separation? Would she recognize you?

I assume not.

Regardless, please know that other people probably recognize her too. Maybe they swipe right to see if she swipes back. I imagine it’s frustrating for her because she’s choosing profiles she likes, while others are scratching an itch or playing a game.

If that’s what you were doing by accepting the match, let her go. She sounds busy.

Of course, if you’re asking about this because you’re attracted to her or interested in what she has to say, send her a note. Maybe she has issues with her job and it’s more complicated than it seems.

It doesn’t sound like you’d want to be in a relationship with someone who does whatever she does, but if you’re genuinely excited to learn more about her – because you could like her – it’s worth asking questions.

To be clear: if this is about satisfying your ego, and learning why a recognizable person picked you, move on.

– Meredith

Readers? Leave it alone? Reach out? Would you be able to date someone whose work upset you?

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