She Wants To Reconcile

Wednesday | January 7, 2015

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She Wants To Reconcile

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Hi Meredith,

My ex recently contacted me wanting to reconcile, and it is hard to tell whether she is being genuine or not. We have had a history of being dishonest across the board. Now that we have a young child it is difficult to dismiss her advances. We have not met once in the last half a year. I have struggled letting go of her but have kept my distance. I feel like she needs to prove to me that things are different. I love her still, but at this point in time I don’t even know who she is.

There are a lot of parts involved. The biggest being that she has used her big family to keep me at a distance. Almost like I have been compartmentalized, set on a shelf, making me feel like she would rather not rock the boat and tell her family about anything that she is trying to pursue with me. I’m missing all the holidays with my son because of this.

I can go on forever with specifics, but I’m exhausted just leaving you this little bit.

– Another Chance?

Your best bet is to tell her that you’d like to reconcile as parents and friends. You’re going to have some sort of relationship with this woman. It’d be great if you could start seeing her, get to know her again, and then decide what kind of relationship is best for both of you.

Perhaps you’ll both agree that you’re better off as a platonic team, and that it’s time to figure out how to share time with your child. Or maybe it’ll be clear that there’s unfinished business — and that you both have changed. You won’t know until you agree to interact. Just be clear about your intentions. Explain that you’re reaching out to figure out where you fit in each other’s lives.

Readers? Should he consider trying this again? Does he have to jump straight back into a relationship?

– Meredith

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