I am newly divorced, late 40s with one teenager, and dating a woman who is in a similar situation except she has been divorced for 15 years. Our chemistry and relationship is great – except for the fact that every four to six weeks she’ll want a “break” to clear her head, which ultimately leaves her thinking about other guys she has dated.

She tells me I don’t get it because I have not dated for years. She says she is not used to a good guy like me as the dating world is tough. I feel like she wants to make up reasons to fight like we are still in high school or college, and I have told her that if she is not ready for a one-on-one relationship then we will have to establish new boundaries. I have also told her that I think she takes my commitment for granted. I have no desire to date other women, but I also don’t want to feel like a doormat.

Am I foolish to think that at our age and stage in life we can get past such issues? I understand every relationship has its own yin and yang but I can’t take the discussions that don’t seem to go anywhere.

– Romeo Void