There’s a lot missing from this letter. You didn’t tell us how she knows these “friends” and how often she sees them. You didn’t tell us whether you know these men, or if she keeps you out of the loop when it comes to the rest of her personal life. Instead of focusing on gender, think about what she gets from these people and how they fit into her world. If the only disturbing thing about them is that they’re male, let it go. People are allowed to have friends.

What concerns me more about your letter is the engagement. Her tepid reaction doesn’t have to mean much (not everyone swoons over a proposal), but your reaction to that tepidness makes it clear you’re not confident about this relationship. Stop thinking about how she said yes, and talk to her about how she sees your life together. If you discuss where you want to be years from now – and what kind of life you want to share — you’ll get a better sense of why she agreed to marry you.

Readers? Should he be marrying her if he has issues with these “friends” and her reaction to his proposal?

– Meredith