I just wanted a second opinion here because I’m feeling really clueless. I’ve been talking with a guy for a couple of weeks. We texted everyday and all day, and he even tagged me in posts on Facebook before we met. We played online games together, and when we were talking on the phone once, he mentioned my name to his friends. Based on all of that, I thought he wanted more than sex.

After a few dates, we did have sex, and then his behavior instantly changed. He was more distant. Unavailable. I asked him what was wrong and he said, “I had so much fun, but I like being alone, and I feel bad for taking it too far the other night because I’m not like that.” It didn’t feel like a clear answer.

Like, I know that something changed, or maybe he wanted it to be this way all along? What put him off? I swear I wasn’t asking for a big commitment or taking about true love to someone I’d only known for just few dates. My questions are: Do you think there’s something I did that put him off? Or was this always his plan? If I ask for more information, will I look too needy?

– Needy