After Seven Weeks, He Wants Me To Move

Friday | December 22, 2017

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After Seven Weeks, He Wants Me To Move

We’ll be off on Monday. Enjoy these pics from Monday’s event.

I recently met the guy I’ve been looking for all my life. We have been spending nearly every weekend together, getting to know each other as much as we can. He lives two and a half hours away from me. We both work, and I have a 13-year-old son who just started high school. My son and I just did a huge interstate move last winter.

Now my new boyfriend wants us to get a rental place together where he lives. My son has just settled, and for the first time in years, he has friends in the neighborhood. My son and I spent last weekend looking around the area where my boyfriend lives, and to be honest, I just wasn’t feeling it. Also, that last move cost me my savings.

I’ve only been seeing this guy for seven weeks. He can’t move because he says he has a really good contract at his job and it’s not easy finding work where I live.

– Move again?

You know the answer to your question: There is no good reason for you to move.

You just relocated, and you like where you live. Your son is happy, which is a big thing. You don’t want to mess with that.

Also … it’s very weird that a guy you met seven weeks ago is asking you to make such a big change. Maybe it sounds romantic, but real romance involves being thoughtful and empathetic. This man isn’t thinking about your comfort, your son’s happiness, or, more practically, your finances. He hasn’t talked about what would happen if you relocated and it didn’t work out (and that’s a real possibility).

Is he really the kind of partner you’ve been looking for your whole life? Maybe you should be searching for something better.

– Meredith

Readers? What do you think?

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I’m guessing you have some loneliness issues if you are seriously considering this idea. What do your other friends think? Would you really feel comfortable leaving them? Or are you wrapping your whole life up in this new man because you don’t have anything else? Take a step back and don’t let this guy set the pace or this relationship.

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