I dated a lot through my early 20s, so when I met my boyfriend, it was easy to note how we were different. For us, that proverbial spark went full force on our second date. I am pleased to say that five years later, it’s still there, supplemented by hard work, love, and care. But while 98 percent of the time our relationship is a breeze, we have a big issue that consumes the remainder: I want children someday, and he does not.

Given that I have loans to pay off from grad school, I am not in any rush. But I am turning 29 next month, and I wonder how long is too long to stay, hoping we can find a compromise in an all-or-nothing situation. My fear is that I will stay in a fabulous relationship … unfulfilled in my desire to raise a family. So do I join the ranks of the single again, hoping to find a second unicorn, one that wants kids? Or do I settle in with the love of my life and content myself with the company of adults?

– Want kids