My story begins as I was biking home from work. I was at the intersection waiting for the light to turn, and as I was standing there, I saw this man, also on a bike. He pulled up next to me and asked, “Are you supposed to get off your bike to cross the street?” I looked at him and said, “Yes, technically it is a pedestrian crossing, so by law we are supposed to get off of our bikes when using it.” From there I learned that we lived on the same street. We biked home together and I learned he had relocated from the East Coast for a few months. He asked me for my number, texted a few days later, and invited me over to his place. I brought my friend and met his roommate. We had a great time and ended the night with a wonderful kiss.

We went out a number of times after that, with and without friends. I showed him my hometown, and took him to see all of the shops and hidden places in the area. Then his brother came out to visit, and as we were all hanging out, I learned that the brother didn’t like me. He basically said so to my face. I wound up getting drunk and almost got sick; I refused help and insisted I was fine (I wasn’t) and went home.

He left for a week after that and I haven’t seen him since. We have been texting, but I’m trying to give him and his brother space and not to seem too needy. I really like him and I don’t know what I should do. Do I just wait? Do I pursue him? What is my next move?

– Help