Sometimes relationships feel one-sided and then they flip. Maybe the honeymoon period ends for one person and the other finds that they’re more into it. I think it’s just a balance.

Ask yourself whether this problem has been there from the start. If he was more affectionate in the beginning and he’s capable of showing that feeling, it might be worth having a talk. Also, telling him you’re in lust might boost the affection. It’s pretty flattering.

I guess my point is that you might want to make sure you’ve communicated how you like to be treated, what you like to hear from a significant other, etc. Also ask him how he feels, in general. COVID-19 – and the state of the world – is affecting people in so many ways. Maybe he’s not at his best and feels preoccupied. Perhaps he misses seeing other people in his life.

If you’ve had those talks and are sure this won’t work, yes, end it. It’ll be tough to be alone, but you can line up virtual quality time with friends, family, etc. Also, it’s not a terrible time to do therapy work, if you need it. The phrase “sad all of the time” made me wonder what else might be happening, and whether it might be helpful to learn some ways to feel good about being by yourself, and how to best communicate with the people you meet. Something to think about.

– Meredith

Readers? How do you talk to a significant other about showing more enthusiasm?