Hey Meredith!

I met this guy about a year ago. We have some mutual friends, so I was surprised that we didn’t already know each other. Right away, we both noticed we had a really strong connection. We talked and hung out casually for about three months until I decided enough was enough, and that if it wasn’t going anywhere, I didn’t want to waste my time. It was beginning to feel like a relationship without the label. There were dates, meeting family, staying the night at each other’s houses, but we were technically not exclusive. He did not want to define the relationship that way.

After I ended things, we went about four to five months without seeing each other, but still talked about once a week (usually him reaching out), but just friendly light conversation. We both briefly saw other people but nothing serious. About a month and a half ago, a few friends went out and I saw him, and the feelings were definitely still there. Our friends even talked about it when we left the room. So a few days later I called him to talk, and I asked if he felt the connection and he said he did.

We’ve been talking every day since and spending time together. I consider him a great friend who genuinely cares about me, and I can talk to him about anything and vice versa. I’m getting to that point again where I’m getting tired of waiting around for him to step up (I’m old school and like defined relationships). I’ve decided I want to ask him where we stand. I’m just worried about ruining our awesome friendship if things aren’t mutual! Just wondering if you could help. Thank you!

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