Met this girl, was shy to approach her, but somehow managed to start a conversation and get her number. We’ve been going out for a couple of months and I think she is slowly losing interest in me because I’ve been displaying (not on purpose) all the negatives you can think of – responding immediately to texts, accepting a short-notice date by changing plans, etc.

I am 27 years old, well-educated, and have a good job with a future, but have never been in long-term relationship due to lack of confidence. I get laid from time to time (not frequently) but that is not what I want.

So here’s the deal: When we last hung out, I spent the night at her house (not the first time) but we did not have sex. I wanted to, and am guessing she wanted me to take the lead. I was hoping we could get it on in the morning but she had plans. I kissed her goodbye said we should make plans later. Then Monday I texted her asking if her weekend was good and I got pretty cold response. The general pattern has been a drop in interaction. What do I do now? I like this girl and want her to be a part of my life, but it feels like she is not serious – or is not serious about me, at least.

– What Next?