Is It Ever OK To Date Someone From The Office?

Thursday | November 12, 2015

Love Letters Dating

Is It Ever OK To Date Someone From The Office?

A little over a year ago, my girlfriend of eight years and I broke up. I’ve been out with a few girls since then, but nothing serious. Then, about a month ago, I realized I had a pretty big crush on this one girl. It’s the first time I’ve felt truly excited about someone else since the breakup. But there’s a catch – we work together. I’m not her direct manager, but I am more senior. Logically, I know it’s a bad idea to pursue this, but we have such a great time goofing around together at work, and I wish something could happen. I literally look forward to work now just to spend time with her.

Is it totally wrong to want to date a coworker? How would I even approach bringing it up if it wasn’t?

– We’re at work

Some of the best couples I know met at work. Sure, there are risks when you date someone who shares your professional space, but sometimes it’s just worth it. (And I say this as someone who’s had a failed office romance. The aftermath was unpleasant, but it was worth a try.)

Of course, before you start sending roses and invitations to this woman’s desk, there are a few things to consider. You should familiarize yourself with the company rules. In some workplaces, you must disclose all office romances. This is what HR is for. Find out how this works.

Once you’re familiar with the boundaries, you can ask this woman out – in a group. You need to know how you interact outside of the office before you consider suggesting a real date. Spending some time with her in the real world should give you the push you need in either direction.

Readers? Worth it? Next steps? Is there a way to suggest plans without risking their office relationship?

– Meredith

Dating Office