I have dated this guy for about a year and a couple of months. We met each other through mutual friends. He is 10 years older than me and has two teenage daughters. I also have a young daughter. I have not met his kids yet – because he still lives in the same household as his kids’ mother. The reason, he says, is because they were both having financial issues and he decided to move back to help her out. He was up front with me about it when we started dating. I was OK with it for the simple reason that I didn’t think things would get as serious as they have.

He has mentioned moving out and buying his own place, and says he is ready to leave because of the tension at home (I can only imagine). I don’t ask him about what goes on at the home, because if he wanted to talk about it, I’m sure he would bring it up to me. He says that there’s nothing between him and his ex, and that they’ve both established that they are better off as friends.

My question is: How long am I suppose to sit around and wait for him to move out? Its been a year and three months since we started dating. I really like him. Honestly, I love him and he knows that. We have great times together, but the only problem is him leaving his situation. At times I get frustrated because I want to be able to go to his house and enjoy those moments together. I don’t consider him my boyfriend, only because I don’t feel comfortable saying that he is because of his living arrangement. I’m scared that after all the time I have invested in him, he might one day just say that he is all set and wants to work on things with her. I know this is a ramble, but I’m just lost and confused.

– Lost and Confused