Do you think it’s possible that some people are just never meant to be married or have stable long-term relationships? I have spent my life as the buddy – or the fling a guy has before he marries the next girl. Guys take me out and conveniently forget to mention their current girlfriend/wife/fiancee until a couple of dates later.

I don’t accept being a mistress or a backup plan. But the older I get, the more I am thinking a good relationship is just not in the cards for me. The longest relationship I’ve had was six months, and that was a few years ago. I am just wondering, after decades of this activity, if this is my destiny. It’s not what I want, but it seems to be the only thing I get. I do tell these men that I have no interest in being anyone’s backup plan … and off they go and marry the next one they meet.

– Backup Plan