Hi Meredith,

I met this guy online and we have been talking for a while. Our conversations were fun, funny, and flirty. At first I ignored him because he wasn’t really my type, but he was persistent and kept talking to me so I decided to give it a try.

I started to like him more than I should, and I kept checking my phone to see if he’d responded to my messages. We mostly use Snapchat.

Then we had a talk last week. You see, I get pretty obsessive when I like someone. I overthink stuff and get really impatient when they don’t respond immediately. He told me that my impatience was getting annoying and that I should relax. I said I understood, and he responded by thanking me. Then I accidentally sent him a message that was supposed to be for my friend. The message was about our “relationship” and how I had annoyed him. He messaged me by saying it’s fine and just relax.

That’s when I felt that he started to keep his distance from me. We still talk but not as much. I’m trying really hard to give him space and reply to his messages by not being too excited. But that also makes it look like I don’t find him interesting anymore. What should I do?

– Annoying