Hi Meredith,

I am 36 years old, independent, and have a great job. I like to think I’m attractive and pleasant to be around, and I have great friends. I am not married and do not have children, but that is something I’m hopeful for, as I have a lot to give and believe I could be a good wife and an even better mom someday. I didn’t date much in my 20s because I spent a lot of my time focusing on a career and saving up to buy a condo. Also, I was shy with guys.

I’ve done lots of online dating but have found it to be frustrating and discouraging. I have met guys online who have either ghosted or are just unresponsive. It does get to a point where you feel like you’re really trying, but often feel stuck running around in circles and just getting nowhere with it.

Recently, I have decided to change things up a bit and have joined activities to put myself out there in a different way. I’ve gone into this with no expectations, just looking to network, make friends, enjoy myself, and who knows what will come of it.

I know that these things take time and that love happens at different times for everyone. Do you have any advice on how I could approach things differently, or if there’s anything else I should do?

— Feeling discouraged but ready for love