I Want A Dominate Woman In A Relationship

Friday | March 6, 2015

Love Letters Dating

I Want A Dominate Woman In A Relationship

Hi Meredith,

I am not sure if this is the type of thing you would give advice about but I figure it’s worth a shot. I am a 30-year-old guy. I think I’m pretty unique in that I prefer women to take on a more dominant role in relationships. I like women who are assertive and sometimes even bossy. I like women who are not afraid to express what they want and expect to get it. I don’t mind sacrificing my own comfort and satisfaction to make a woman happy sometimes.

I’m not talking about being a doormat. I want a relationship to be a partnership but just would like the woman to “wear the pants.” I know that this is the type of woman/relationship I need to feel totally fulfilled.

Unfortunately, based on my experience, most women are not like this. This is not an easy thing to talk about but I have found that not saying anything and hoping for the best doesn’t work. I’ve tried online dating and started being open about this pretty early into the communication. That hasn’t worked either. Most women simply stop talking to me when I tell them about this or they say that they wouldn’t be a good fit for me.

This isn’t something I’m comfortable talking about with friends or people I know. I’m not sure what to do. I think I could be happy in a “normal” relationship but not as happy as I could be otherwise. I know 30 isn’t that old but I’m not getting any younger and eventually I want marriage, family, the whole nine yards. Maybe I should give up on trying to find a woman like this. If I do keep looking, I’m out of ideas on how to find one.

– Discouraged

“I like women who are assertive and sometimes even bossy. I like women who are not afraid to express what they want and expect to get it.”

I know a lot of women like this. But they’re not going to boss you around on the first date.

Something tells me that when you disclose your interests before getting to know someone, it sounds like too much to take on. It’s also probably difficult for these women to understand what you want. Your letter makes it sound like you’re seeking an opinionated partner with a strong personality. But is there more to it? Are you interested in a lifestyle that requires a specific kind of communication?

If you’re just looking for an alpha, you’re going to have to keep dating just like everybody else. Make it clear in your online dating profile that you like assertive women. Maybe look for some older women who are sure about what they want.

If this is more of a lifestyle thing and you need a set of rules right off the bat, do some Googling. I just did, and there’s plenty of information out there about where to find a partner who’ll be a real dominant.

Readers? What does he want? How can he find it? Should he tell people what he’s looking for before meeting them?

– Meredith

Dating

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Dude, it shouldn’t be that hard if you just look for the clues! If you are connecting online does she initiate the contact ? Does she suggest that you meet? Does she suggest a location or date idea? If not when you defer to her does she pick up the ball and run with it.? Having the conversation is a BAD idea because it make you look weak which will actually be a turnoff to a strong woman.

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