“My intuition was off and it remained that way throughout the relationship.”

Is that true? It sounds like your gut was telling you not to commit to this person. You wound up steering yourself in the right direction.

Let’s say he didn’t cheat on you. Does it matter? He was still secretive and out all night.

I mean, secrets are OK – as is going out all night – but the behavior didn’t make you happy. You’re allowed to end the relationship because the two of you want different things.

I feel like I’m telling a lot of letter writers that lately, so let me be clear:

Sometimes relationships end for very simple reasons. Sometimes they end amicably, when two people realize they can’t adjust their rituals and priorities to fit with their partner’s. You don’t have to stick around just because it’s not the worst.

You loved him, but you didn’t feel right with him. Also, being with him wasn’t logistically easy. You had to move to start the relationship. That puts a ton of pressure on its success.

You’re better off in Florida (is that the first time I’ve said that in Love Letters?) – or anywhere that you’ve chosen for yourself. Maybe he’s changed, but you have too, right? Build a life that works on your terms.

– Meredith

Readers? Why go back? What’s with so many people wanting to rekindle relationships with major flaws?