I’m 25, female, and have a master’s degree and a good job. I live with my parents saving money to buy a house, which I plan on doing in the fall. I’ve been dating Steve for about two years – he is a great, salt-of-the-earth kind of guy. He is 35, never went to college, and has had the same job since he was 20. He lives in a small apartment and walks to work. (He doesn’t have a license — no legal problems, he just never took the time to go through the process.) Our relationship is good. We have fun, we play together in several sports leagues, and we have a ton of mutual friends.

The issue that has started to crop up is that I don’t view him as “the one” and never have. I view him more as the “one for now.” He is not a guy I could ever imagine being married to and I have never thought of him that way. Recently I started looking at houses, and it’s starting to feel like he thinks it will be a house for us. He has come with me and has made comments about certain houses being close to a bus line for him to get to/from work. We have never talked about a future, but now I fear he may think of this relationship as his last one while I view it as my mid-20s relationship. I think I am at a crossroads. Any advice?

– Happy With Mr. Right (Now), Amherst