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Have you ever seen “Clueless” starring Alicia Silverstone and Paul Rudd?

The film – which is perfect in every way – truly changed the public’s perception of what it means fall in love with a step-brother. 

By the end of that movie, we’re all rooting for this college student (Rudd) to date the high schooler (Silverstone) whose father was once married to his mother.

Of course … sometimes I wonder … what would have happened to those characters if they broke up? What if Cher (Silverstone) decided she needed to have other experiences far from home? What would become of Josh (Rudd) after a breakup?

In real life, things aren’t so simple.

I do have questions about how close you are with your step-brother, how often you hang out alone, and what your relationship was like when you were 17 and he … wasn’t. I just want to make sure things feel healthy.

Regardless of public perception, I say: wait. Think. Spend more time considering.

Noticing someone is not falling for them. Over time, maybe you’ll grow out of this – or you’ll want it more and more, and then it’ll be something to talk about.

Try not to think of him as “the one for you.” There are a bunch of people for you out there. Which brings up another question: is your new interest in him related to dating fatigue? Does it seem like he’s the only guy around you can connect with?

Basically, take your time. It could happen, but it’s too early to know if it’s worth it.

In the movie, it’s Paul Rudd. I can’t stress that enough.

For now, notice, but no sudden moves. Stay thoughtful, so that if does happen, you won’t have to worry about people’s reactions because you’ll be confident you’re doing the right thing.

– Meredith

Readers? Have you dated someone attached to family? Someone you wouldn’t be able to stop seeing after a breakup? Do we have any coupled step-kids in the audience here? Help, please.

Send your own letter here – or to [email protected]. I’m reading.