When lockdown happened and many people started using Zoom, I think we all knew the technology was here to stay. I figured that at least a quarter of the people who traveled for work probably didn’t have to do that as much anymore. (I don’t know if I’m right about that, but I did read this story that said business travel will never bounce back to where it was.)

I bring this up because during lockdown, people also embraced FaceTime and Zoom dates. They basically had a quick, informal social session to get a sense of someone before seeing them in person. Sometimes Date 2 was a short walk and a picnic lunch.

I really hoped the FaceTime dates would stick around. 

I will tell you that I had some quick FaceTime and Zoom dates during this time, toward the end of 2020. I liked them a lot because I got the sense people were more themselves on a FaceTime, in their own home, in pajama pants (I assume), than they were at a more formal dinner or drink.

I was also better at socializing because I wasn’t thinking, “This skirts is binding,” or “What will I watch on TV when I get home?”

For busy, anxious, and easily distracted people, FaceTime/Zoom dates might work well.

My advice is to ask someone for a quick virtual date. Be playful about it.   You can explain that you like this step, even for a quick conversation. It still requires your time, but you don’t have to leave the house. 

The other idea is to stack your social nights. Grab a few minutes with someone before you see friends later that evening. It’s a lot to accomplish, especially if you’re an introvert, but at least the date part doesn’t monopolize everything.

– Meredith

Readers? Other thoughts for weeding out people? How many FaceTime/Zoom dates have you had (for those who date)?

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