Hi Meredith! I hope you’re doing well 🙂

I feel the need to share something that’s been weighing on me. I never imagined that I’d have to speak out about something like this, but it’s become clear that I need to express how deeply hurt I am by my boyfriend’s actions.

The other day, I found a conversation my boyfriend had with his friends on his phone, and let me just say, my heart was shattered into pieces, to say the least. I trusted him with so many personal and vulnerable parts of me, things that were meant to stay between us. But instead of protecting that trust, he shared it with others. What hurt even more was the way they spoke about me — calling me vile names and mocking me — and he just stood there, agreeing with them instead of defending me.

I never imagined that the person I loved, who I thought would stand up for me, would be the one to allow this kind of disrespect. It’s not just about the words that were said, but the fact that he didn’t put a stop to it, didn’t stand up for me when I needed him to. In those moments, I felt invisible and worthless.

I need to know that my feelings matter to him, that he cared (or at least I believe cares) enough to protect me, especially when I’m not around to defend myself. I can’t keep moving forward in a relationship where my dignity is disregarded and my trust is broken. I need to feel valued and respected, not just by him, but in how he let others treat me, too.

Imagine if he spoke about his friends’ girlfriends/wives the way they spoke about me. I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t appreciate that. Should I forgive him?

– Disrespected