Hello Meredith,

Long time reader finally looking to get some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. The beginning of our relationship was rocky (my fault). I had recently ended a relationship and he was looking to jump right into one with me. I got scared and ran, not being ready for any sort of commitment. A month or so went by and I realized I missed him and wanted to make things work. I reached out to him not knowing what to expect, but we ended up getting back together.

When we got back together he told me that he wasn’t with anyone else while we were broken up. I didn’t ask, he volunteered this information; I personally didn’t care to know what he did while we weren’t together. He recently slipped and confessed that he had been with two other women while we weren’t together.

I was obviously upset to hear that he was with other people, when from the beginning he had voluntarily told me there was no one else. I’m more upset about the fact that he made me believe the lie for almost two years. If he voluntarily lied to my face about something so stupid and not important … what other things could he possibly be hiding/lying about? He tells me that he was scared I’d run again so he didn’t want to tell me, but I told him from day one that honesty is huge for me.

Where do I go from here?

– Frustrated With Stupid Lies