Dear Meredith,

About three months ago my friend’s Facebook friend started texting me. He caught me by surprise with the texts. We’ve been texting almost every day since. I feel it’s like an interview process. Mostly I ask him questions and he answers. I keep asking whether he has questions for me.

He says he is interested. That if not, he wouldn’t have told me things that only I know and no one else does, not even his family and best friends. So this “text relationship” goes on through the holidays. At first he said that he’d take me out after he recovered from a surgery, and then he said he’d find a different weekend to meet up.

I finally met him last week out of the blue. He asked me to meet up for a little bit just to chat face to face. It went well, I guess. He asked me to “stay in one piece” before we meet again (since I walked into the cement post after we hugged goodbye) and asked if he’d hear from me.

Now we are back to texting. He said he wanted to take things slow before we met because in the past he’s been burned and hurt. He called me again the other day and volunteered to help me with something, but the timing wasn’t right. Last night I called him and chatted for a little bit and then I asked him to go to dinner this coming Saturday cause it’s his birthday.

I don’t know if I should have done that or not. What do you think? How slow is slow? How much time should I give the guy? Do I have to wait another three months? I know he’s scared, but if he was really interested, don’t you think he’d ask more questions and call or ask me out?

– Lost in Text