Dear Meredith,

I am a 49-year-old woman, divorced for quite a while. Last week I went on a date with a man I met online. We corresponded, then spoke on the phone and texted a bit. We met at a restaurant and had a great date. We talked and laughed, and he was very fun, attractive, and down to earth; we totally clicked. He held my hand when we walked down the sidewalk to a bar for a drink. We had a very good kiss, or two, and he walked me back to my car since it was late, and said he’d like to do this again. I agreed. So far so good, right?

The next day I didn’t hear anything from him (generally he texted me good morning) so I texted him good morning. We had a little benign text conversation, and I didn’t hear anything for the rest of the day, but I knew he was working. I texted him good night, said I hoped he had a good day, and didn’t hear anything back. The next few days there was no communication. Of course, I was puzzled about what happened.

This isn’t my first rodeo – I know when two people click and when they don’t. On Tuesday, I saw him online and sent him a message saying that I thought we had a great date and I wasn’t sure what happened. He texted me, “I had a great time and like you a lot! But you were online as soon as our date was over — kind of a buzz kill! I don’t get it. You are great and maybe we can hang out sometime?” My phone beeps when I have an online message — but he must’ve been online too, if he saw I was online. It was one date! So as much fun as we had, I’m thinking he is too rigid. But clicking with someone is so rare. Do I try to reach out, or do I let this just go? I can’t seem to stop thinking about our date, but I don’t think I did anything wrong. Thoughts?

– Wish I Could Understand Dating