I recently starting seeing this guy I met online. We went out to dinner for our first date and it was really great. We had lots of things to talk about and it was really comfortable. I ended up going back to his place that night, and after a few wines, we slept together. I was worried that I had given it up too quickly; I wasn’t expecting to hear from him again and figured it was probably just a one night stand. But the next day he texted and asked if he could see me again that night. So I went around to his place for dinner and movies. He told me that he’d never wanted to hang out with a girl as much as me, and that he wanted to get to know me more. I told him I felt the same way. The next weekend, he came to my place and stayed the night. We had dinner and went out the next day.

After that, he asked me to come around to his place the next weekend, on the Sunday night. He didn’t mention anything about going out (dinner, movies, etc.). In my mind I was thinking, why not Friday or Saturday night? Because we both had to work Monday. I agreed anyway and said I would see him on Sunday. We had been texting every single day through the week, but when Sunday came around I got a text message from him saying that he had to cancel because he forgot he had a family dinner. We then rescheduled for the following Friday night. Friday then came around and I texted him that day to make sure we were still on (we had again been texting throughout the week) and he responded saying that he wasn’t sure, that he had a lot of things to do that night and that he had to feed his mother’s dog early in the morning, however he suggested breakfast in the morning. I said OK, that’s fine, breakfast it is. But then in the morning he cancelled again and said he didn’t have enough time. He then suggested going out for drinks later on the week. By this point I was pretty frustrated with all the cancelling, so I texted him back and said that it was pretty clear that he didn’t have the time for this and not to worry about it. He wrote back and said that I was being rude, and that he is sorry that I feel that way. He said it’s not his fault that he is busy and that things kept getting in the way. I thought about it for quite a while and decided that maybe I had overreacted, so I texted him and apologized and asked if we could hang out another time when he is free, and he responded with “I don’t think so.” So now I know that it’s over. But I am so confused about all of this. Did I really overreact or was he just not that interested? This really got me down because I thought he wanted to get to know me like he said. I just thought more of an effort would have been made.

— Rude