My Ex’s ‘pitiful Butt’ Wants Me Back

Thursday | June 23, 2016

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My Ex’s ‘pitiful Butt’ Wants Me Back

I am a single mother of a six-year-old son. I have recently started dating again. I have been dating a new man for the past three months. I introduced the father of my child to my new boyfriend to try to avoid any drama. However, my child’s father has suddenly become jealous and seems to be trying to crawl his pitiful butt back to me.

My ex has been dating a woman for the past four years but claims they have only had sex three times. Of course I do not believe this nonsense. He calls at all hours of the night and shows up to my house unannounced. It is a difficult situation because I would not want to deny my son a chance to see his father. This has caused tension in the relationship with my new boyfriend who feels my ex’s actions are highly disrespectful. How can I help communicate better with the two men in my life?

– Confused

You know what you want. Now you just have to say it.

Tell your ex that you are not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with him ever again. Explain that late-night calls are not okay, unless they’re about the kid. Showing up unannounced is not allowed. You share a son, but you do not share a home. Let him know that even if the new boyfriend didn’t exist, you’d want to keep the relationship platonic. Make it clear that you do want him around as a parent, and that you appreciate his attention when it’s about family. Tell him that if any of this is confusing, you can meet with a professional to map out how it works.

Tell you new guy what you’re doing in paragraph one. He should appreciate that you’re setting boundaries and clarifying your relationship. That’s probably all he needs right now.

The best way to communicate in complicated situations is to get honest and assertive. Not necessarily angry or upset, just clear. This situation needs major clarity. Don’t be afraid to tell everybody what to do.

– Meredith

Readers? What should she say and how?

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