1. First, accept that it won’t be a flawless day. Maybe perfect, but not without bumps.

Parties are messy. Things get forgotten. That’s how good stories are made. Do your best to try to make it fun. 

There are planning tools online (free ones, from what I can see). Also, it can help to delegate responsibilities to a friend or family member who loves this stuff. Some people live for wedding planning. Let them into your world.

From what I hear, there’s a rush of planning at the start (choosing a venue, etc.) and then, depending on how much time you have, things ease up. This might feel like a sprint, but it doesn’t last forever.

It’s everything else (the marriage) that lasts forever – in theory.

2. I do not believe opposites always attract. It might work that way for you, which is fine, but many people want partners with similar values and priorities.

Opposites can stay together, but it helps if they have a shared language for decision making and disagreements. Is your partner a good listener? Can you hear them out and respond? If you don’t have a way of connecting through conflict, look into therapy.

Sometimes people have to be taught how to argue so a disagreement doesn’t end with two people walking away furious. It’s also helpful to know whether someone is opposed to therapy – or help, in general. If they won’t agree to that kind of thing, it’s best to know now – because peace and resolution might be too far out of reach.

You didn’t say what kind of opposites you are – whether it’s in lifestyles, political views, sleep schedules, or other categories. But the communication thing has to be the middle of that Venn diagram. That’s what matters. You have to be able to talk about all of it.