Hi Meredith,

I’m hoping you can help me with an online dating relationship question. I started talking to this guy — “Mark” — about a month ago. A week after we began talking, Mark took me on a date and it was the best first date I’ve ever been on. He was so polite, funny, cute, such a gentlemen, and didn’t even try to kiss me. I have never been so attracted to someone.

We both work crazy schedules so we planned to finally meet up again a week later. We were going to go out for dinner and a movie, but weather was putting a damper on those plans and he asked if I wanted to go to his place to watch a movie and order in. I agreed.

It was the most comfortable and amazing second date. We ended up kissing — a lot. He walked me to me car, holding my hand, and I was on Cloud Nine. From the beginning, he was extremely open about his last relationship (2.5 years long that ended 6 months prior) and the way he felt about me. He told me that he wasn’t dating anyone else from the website.

To make a long story short, he cancelled on me THREE times before I finally had to send him a long email stating that I clearly wasn’t worth his time and that he didn’t seem ready to date. I also expressed how much fun I had with him and that I thought he was a great guy. The next day he texts me something completely random (and he HAD to have seen my email at this point) and I responded. I haven’t heard from him since.

I know it was only two dates and that maybe I should’ve been more forgiving of his hectic schedule, but it seemed to me like he could’ve made more of an effort. Do I just forget about him or try contacting him again — either now or in the future? The email kind of left the ball in his court, but I’m having a hard time forgetting this because he was such a great guy. What do you think?

– Confused in Cambridge