Hi Meredith,

I know this is a bit of an atypical question. I’m a 30-something who has been able to snag some very beautiful and amazing women in the past. I’ve always been confident in that respect, but the last few years my hair has been thinning on top, and my confidence isn’t what it used to be.

Now I’ve heard lots of people say that there are plenty of attractive balding men and that balding shouldn’t hold you back at all. But at the same time, I’ve never heard a single woman say how attractive they find thinning hair or balding men to be. In fact, when I wear a baseball cap, I get a ton of female attention and most women check me out. When I’m not wearing it, I get far less, so I know firsthand that it makes a difference. It’s gotten to the point that when I’m flirting with a girl with my hat on, I get self-conscious about what she’ll think when I take it off.

I know, given the choice, a woman would rather have great hair on her guy than the thinning variety. My question is: Is my thinning hairline drawing as much attention as I think it is? What would make a beautiful woman, who has options, look past this unattractive quality? If I ask a girl out who met me with a hat on, should I expect her to be disappointed when she sees me sans cap? I’d really love to know from a woman’s perspective, as I’ve been too shy to ask, yet these questions run through my head anytime I’m talking to a beautiful girl I otherwise click with.

Sorry … but I guess boys can be vain too. Thanks.

– Anxious About Follicle Challenges