Do not confront this other woman, please. Instead, focus your energy on figuring out why this Snapchat interaction bothers you so much. If you’re considering breaking up with your longtime boyfriend because he communicates with a faraway ex/friend over social media, something else is going on.

Do you feel lonely when you’re with him? Do you still enjoy each other’s company? What would make you think that a friendship with another woman means he’s no longer loyal to you? My guess is that she’s not the real problem. Something tells me that the move-in has been a difficult adjustment. Don’t underestimate the power of that kind of change.

Your boyfriend told you he’d stop talking to this woman if it bothered you, but it sounds like you weren’t honest at the time about your concerns and needs. Have that conversation now – it’s not too late – because you don’t want to turn into a conspiracy theorist/snooper. Snooping and guessing are good ways to end a relationship, when in reality, all you really want to ask is, “Are we OK?”

– Meredith

Readers? Is this fishy? Would you be OK with a partner Snapchatting with an ex? How should she confront this problem?