Hi,

I met this really awesome girl on Tinder last August. We had great chemistry and had a lot of things in common like our love of the outdoors (hiking, biking, etc.). Pretty soon we were spending every weekend outdoors, and we would spend at least one night at week at her place or mine. She told me about some of her exes – one asked her for money, another one was unwilling to commit, and she found out another had been abusive in previous relationships. She told me that so far, I was the best she’d ever met.

Things were going great for a month until September when she came over crying and said that her ex (the one who was not willing to commit) wanted to get back with her. She ended things with me. Two days later, I get a text from her saying that she was manipulated and wants to get back with me. We continued dating, though we were not going out as often as before. In the winter, she told me she had been dating someone else behind my back. That killed me. For a long time, I was not able to sleep or eat. She realized the extent to which I was hurt and even supported me through therapy. I kept pleading with her to give our relationship another chance, trying to explain to her that we have so much in common and it would be a shame to throw all that away. I explained to her that sooner or later all couples hit a lull, and that because we had the same interests, we’d be able to get through it. She acknowledged that, but told me that she had made up her mind. In the meantime, my friends kept telling me that they saw her profile on Bumble.

In March, we agreed to meet up for one of the outdoor activities we love. She told me more about what happened last year – that she had been dating someone on and off while she was on and off with me. She told me she doesn’t know how the future will bring, but that in another few months she will have an idea. I make efforts to ignore her and when she realizes that, she tells me she is really sad and sorry we are not talking. Should I wait to see how she feels in a few months or should I move on and start dating others?

– A troubled soul