“I’m not overly attracted to him.”

Well, that’s that, isn’t it? If you were into him I’d tell you to take the risk. But you don’t sound thrilled about the idea of giving this relationship a second chance as a grownup. Your anxiety seems to be about self-doubt, but you should trust your gut. If you don’t want to be this person to be your boyfriend, that’s OK.

Sometimes friends and family think they know what’s best, but they’re not the ones who would have to make out with this guy. You can tell them that your feelings for your brother’s friend just aren’t there.

You can also talk to your brother’s friend about your boundaries. Explain that you don’t want to be pursued, and that he should reset his expectations. That might mean you see him less, but that’s OK. It’s better to hurt him now than string him along.

– Meredith

Readers? Should she give herself more time to make a decision? Does she seem to want this guy at all?