A dating question from a digital nomad
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Q.
I am a digital nomad, and I have been traveling for about two to three years now. I have met several interesting people over this time, but for a couple of months I have been longing for a relationship. Someone who could share a routine with me, have fun on weekends, plan future trips, and enjoy life.
I came to my hometown to visit friends and family, and I met a guy who made my heart beat faster. And the best part is that he also works remotely and enjoys traveling. But he is much more rooted in town.
I have been wondering if my need of companionship should be prioritized over traveling, so I could give the relationship a chance. But … traveling is one of the things that makes me happiest in life.
– Anonymous
A.
Let’s say this guy was like, “I’m all in to travel 100 percent of the time.” You’d still have an issue. You don’t know him well enough to make decisions about a future together.
If you want someone around for the “routine,” whatever that is, you have to date them first.
That probably means staying in one place for a few months. You can take trips in the middle, but then you’d have to come back.
For a lot of people, travel is about seeing new things and having an experience. For a long-term digital nomad, sticking around a hometown might be a fascinating challenge. It’s its own adventure – seeing how it feels to sit still and connect with a person/community.
My advice is to find some middle ground that combines home and travel, so you can have some new adventures without sacrificing too much.
There might be a really cool rental, not far from great day-trip destinations. Do some googling.
If it all falls apart, it won’t be difficult to move to the next place.
– Meredith
Readers? How do other digital nomads find long-term love? Is it worth sticking around for this experience?
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