My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I knew him for a year before we got into a relationship. We’ve always been long-distance.

At first we were in the same country but different cities, and we used to meet up as much as possible every month. During that first year, we talked to each other every single day. But after he moved to a different country, the time zones affected us, so there has been less communication.

Since that move, he has changed into a completely different person. I don’t know how to explain it, but … he no longer does or says anything romantic. He doesn’t seem like the sensitive, innocent, sweet man I fell for. We fight a lot because he has changed, and he says things that hurt me. Because of this, I’ve been miserable. I can’t study or eat or sleep or be normal. He became so arrogant that he doesn’t even allow us to talk things out. He calls for phone sex, and otherwise we don’t talk very much.

The only silver lining is that he hasn’t cheated on me and is still with me after all of these fights. But I’m not happy. I can accept small small changes and the communication gap because of his work and the distance. But he keeps complaining about how much money he spent on a ticket to come see me – and I know he also spends a lot of money on his friends and himself. He just isn’t the way he used to be.

I am not sure what I’m trying to tell you here. I’m confused and hurt, and I feel betrayed. I think it’s because I was cautious enough to avoid dating him for the better part of a year before I finally said yes. Can you help?

– He Changed