Meredith,

I’ve been talking to this guy I met on Tinder for almost seven months now. Last year, he ended a messy relationship. He was engaged to this woman and had a child with her. From what he told me, she was extremely controlling and he lost a lot of his close friends because of it.

When we first started dating, it was casual, but it quickly turned into something that felt serious. He has a crazy schedule because of the time he spends with his child, so we only get to see each other once or twice a week, but we’ve made it work. It hasn’t bothered me because when we do spend time together, it makes up for the days that we’re apart. We have so much in common and I’ve never felt so connected to someone.

We got into a little argument about a month ago regarding our label. I think it freaked him out, the idea that he could have a serious girlfriend again, because he’s finally regaining the friendships he lost. He said I’m “the right girl at not the most ideal time,” and that it’s too soon for him to be back in a serious relationship. He said he’s not sure how long it will be until that changes. However, he still wants to continue what we’re doing, and I feel like since we had the conversation, we talk even more, and when we spend time together it’s just so easy and comfortable.

He is such a great guy and is absolutely worth the wait, but am I stupid for continuing this? All of my friends think I’m crazy and stupid for waiting around. But how can I be mad at him for being honest with me? I really like him and am fully aware that I may end up hurt in the end, but I want to be with him. Your thoughts?

– Waiting