Hi Meredith,

Most nights before we go to bed, my roommate and I vent to each other about school, work, family, or guys. The night after our winter break was the longest vent session we’ve had yet. We had so much to tell each other – particularly that we had both decided to move on from the men in our lives.

I wanted to move on from the guy I’ve been seeing and focus on myself, and she said she was going to do the same because she wasn’t happy anymore and had lost herself trying to make her boyfriend happy. Although we were both going through a rough patch, it was better because we were going through the same situation together. Until the next day. It was as if nothing had happened and they’ve been “fine” ever since.

She said she spoke to him about him not being happy and that they talked it through. I am a bit disappointed that she forgave him so easily. When we vented that first night, I thought the semester would look brighter – and that we would get back to being the fun, careless, and crazy friends we once were. But now it all seems to be about guys. She’s changed. I’ve had numerous talks with her about how I believed she’s changed, but she disagrees. I don’t know what to think or say.

– Can I get some advice?