I met a woman at the end of 2015 and it was an instant connection for both of us. She came over almost every weekend and we just cuddled, kissed, and watched movies. I even introduced her to my son. Everything was going great, and then all of a sudden she said she felt we were going too fast. I had to agree.

She had gone to church that day and felt the service was speaking to her. It was about how strong, lasting relationships come from solid foundations of friendship. We felt that we rushed into a relationship and really didn’t form a foundation of friendship, so we agreed to take a step back and work on our friendship – a.k.a. we broke up around on Valentine’s Day. It’s difficult and it hurts me more than I thought it would.

Things have changed a lot since we took a step back. Some days it seems that she does want to get back together with me, but others not so much. She is a VERY independent woman. She came out when she was 27 (she’s 30 now). Her first girlfriend broke her heart. She has days where she just wants to jump back into our relationship, but other days it doesn’t seem like she’s interested at all and is pushing the point that she’s independent, saying she doesn’t know if she’s meant for relationships. She says she’s in a funk.

I do want to be with her and I do agree we need to work on our friendship. I am actually moving closer to her, not just for her but for a fresh start for me. I’m just looking for advice on this situation. Some days are easier than others for me. Lately, it’s been hard because we had two to three amazing days with communication and being open with each other like old times, and then it was back to her independence and her saying I was being “too much.” I try to back off on texting so she has space. How should I deal with this situation?

– Friends Again