“I would like to spend less time with her, but I also feel obligated …”

That says everything. You want this obligation to go away.

“part of it is guilt about my ex being alone …”

Is she alone? Does she have other friends? You can’t be responsible for all of her emotional needs. You’re not her therapist, nor are you the kind of best friend who can promise to be around like this forever.

The next time you feel alone and think to call her for company, take a beat and try something else – maybe a long walk.

The next time one of you asks, “Are we spending too much time together?,” answer honestly and say, “Probably.” It’s great that you’ve already started having these conversations. She’s not going to be shocked that this is on your mind.

Let her know you want to see her and the dog, but that you do want to give her more room to move on and to meet new people. Tell her you want the space to try that too.

Maybe you can walk the dog twice a week, and once when your ex isn’t there. It’ll feel weird … until it doesn’t.

– Meredith

Readers? Dog owners who went through a breakup: how did you set boundaries? How did you manage time? When is a friendship with an ex in the way of new experiences?

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