I bet that everyone reading this letter is thinking, “Stop talking to this guy – because he is terrible to you.”

It’s obvious to us because we’re only reading about the low moments. 

I have to imagine your ex also says nice things – or did – which is why you’re holding on. The fact that you didn’t mention anything about his kindness says everything, though. The bad outweighs the good.

I won’t make you feel bad for letting this “friendship” go on and on. You want to fix it – to make it better. Maybe you believe that dropping him means you wasted your time, or that you made poor choices in choosing his company to begin with.

There’s something about a sunk-cost fallacy in all of this. You can walk away, make new friends, and find new romantic partners. Your good times with this ex will always be part of your story. You get to keep the experience, even if you drop him.

Stop communicating with this man and make space for nice people. He might try to show up more once he realizes you’re gone, but … too little, too late.

– Meredith

Readers? How do you make the decision to walk away if you’re someone who has trouble ending relationships?

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