This question might seem silly – even to you, letter writer – but it’s not. Just ask anyone going through a terrible breakup.

Imaging seeing a recent ex’s name in the group chat. Consider what it would be like to know that this ex is interacting with people you love, even minimally. Devastating.

If your daughter is also in this fantasy league, ask her what she wants and follow her instructions. If she’s not in the group and doesn’t ask about it, never mention it and continue on, with no direct communication with the ex. Consider him a bot – like an online player. 

If you sense weirdness or detachment from him (via messages or lack thereof), you can always ask him whether he wants to bail early. 

Really, this is all about the engagement level of the group. Some people in fantasy leagues text all week and use the conversation as a way to catch up. Others never chitchat at all. 

If there’s a way to keep him on the roster but remove him from personal conversation, that’s fine too.

A last, more passive thought: doesn’t football end soon? If no one’s asking you about this, you could just wait it out.

Would any of this be Patriots protocol? I have no idea. I will call my sports friends and ask, though.

– Meredith

Readers? Would you kick someone’s ex out of a fantasy league/club/activity?

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