She left me for someone from Instagram

Friday | April 19, 2024

Love Letters Breakups 🖤

She left me for someone from Instagram

Looking for letters. I’ll be reading this weekend.

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I have enjoyed your columns for a while, and now I have this situation – and it’s changed everything forever.

My girlfriend and I were together for 12 years and, and those years were quite a challenge.

The last two were a mess; she had a medical procedure that changed her life.

I went away on a business trip in February, and while I was away, she decided to move in with someone she met on Instagram. She left me hanging.

They sent me a video text of them being intimate on Valentines Day, which shocked me.

The diamond was coming in August and now it’s just an empty box of nothing.

I was with her through her illness and other events. Now I’m a shell of myself, as I only go out to the grocery store and church. I have taken a leave of absence from my job to address this, but I cannot get over someone doing this to me.

I actually wrote her a thank you card for our time together and of course did not hear back.

If there was an adult conversation to end it, then that would be fine, but this is what I have to deal with.

Why are people so cruel to each other?

– Love is Blindness

This is the first time I’ve heard of someone sending an intimate video of themselves with a new partner … to an ex.

I would love to interview this woman about why she did that. Was it cruelty? Her way of making sure you let go for good? A mistake?

(Also, unrelated, do diamonds take that long to arrive? I didn’t know! How early do you have to order a ring?)

Here’s the thing: this breakup is terrible, life-changing, and painful. But it’s also closure on a complicated 12 years. Imagine a life without the challenges of your relationship. Consider that a new chapter could be … fun? More about you? Joyful?

This is a time to think about what a happy life could look like. More movies? Travel? Time to read? You’re the main character now, and you’re starting something different. Curate your time however you like. Get therapy to help, especially while you have time away from work.

Grieve this, of course, but then get back into a routine. Don’t let the sadness stop you from writing a new love story where you center yourself. It’s not about her anymore.

– Meredith

Readers? How do you process a life-changing betrayal? Is it good to take some time off or is it important to get back to a routine? How do you shift focus? Send your own letter to [email protected] or use the anonymous form.

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Featured Comment

“I think you didn’t propose because you just weren’t sure about the relationship. Your delay turned out to be correct. You’ll get a lot of advice today but I would say focus on this….that you sent a thank you note to someone who hurt you in vicious way. Don’t be a doormat. Get back to work, it’s important in so many ways including self-esteem, distraction, and meeting a new partner. Her relationship with the new guy will fizzle and hopefully when she comes back you’ll be in a new relationship.”

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