Maybe I Shouldn’t Have Dumped My Boyfriend

Tuesday | January 26, 2016

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Maybe I Shouldn’t Have Dumped My Boyfriend

I’m struggling right now. I broke up with my boyfriend the other day and now I feel that I shouldn’t have. The reason I did is because it would have been long-distance for two years, seven hours away from each other. I didn’t feel like I fully loved him, but I cared about him a lot and liked being around him. We didn’t date that long (around 4 months) and we had been fighting a lot recently about the most ridiculous stuff. Our relationship was also causing problems with my family. I didn’t know if I could see a future with him.

He is a great guy, he is going to do great things in life, he made me happy, and he was always there. Was it stupid for me to think about the future so much? Am I just second-guessing this because it just happened? I don’t understand what people mean when they say “you know when you know.” I’m just confused and worried about my decision.

– Struggling

You did the right thing. You’re just a little lonely because you’re newly single. It’s natural to miss someone who was a part of your life, even if he was only around for four months.

People say “you know when you know” because sometimes you just do. In your case, you knew plenty. You knew that your relationship with this man was causing problems with your family, that he was moving too far away, and that you didn’t really love him. You’re allowed to feel sad, but don’t second-guess.

Readers? Any reason to reconsider this breakup?

– Meredith

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Featured Comment

It wasn’t going to work. You realized it but now you’re alone and remembering the good things. You’ll find someone better suited to you, your family. Fighting all the time after 4 mos is not a good sign.

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