I’ve gotten to the point where I’m convinced something is wrong with me. A perfect example of why is my last relationship. I worked with my ex for year without even noticing he ever had a crush on me. A coworker finally brought it to my attention. I had always been happy to see him come into work but that’s as far as it had went. Some way or another we starting seeing each other outside of work. We were already friends but we instantly hit it off in a romantic way. After three months of dating, I felt as though we had connected on a deep level and he treated me better than any guy had in years. I have had some horrible experiences with dating, so before this experience I had pretty much taken a year off from committing to anyone. Trusting someone still made me nervous, but after the third time of him bringing up us being exclusive and promising he was serious about the relationship, I put down my guard and agreed. We had a list of Christmas things we were going to do together and even put in vacation time at work for his birthday.

I thought everything was going great. The last time I saw him before he broke up with me, he seemed perfectly fine. A few days after that, I noticed that he started to seem a little different and distant. Then a week later, after not even seeing him in person, he came to my apartment and broke up with me saying he just wasn’t happy anymore and that we had “personality differences.” Only a few weeks after putting in our vacation time. This is the same guy that pretty much did everything – initiated our hanging out, was the one that brought up dating, told me to put in my vacation days. He took so much effort getting to know details about me. Everyone at work thought we were perfect for each other. This breakup was the breaking point for me. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened, and I feel as though I’m responsible and am doing something wrong.

He seemed to really like me and all of a sudden ran away. We had never been in a real fight. I know we both had bad relationships in the past, but who hasn’t? Can you help me see some insight as to why this happened? Can you really lose feelings for someone in a week? I waited three months to start dating him after knowing him for a year. I thought I was doing things right. Is there a way to prevent this in the future from happening again?

– what’s wrong