I Kicked Her Out

Monday | October 9, 2017

Love Letters Breakups 🖤

I Kicked Her Out

A short-ish letter. I know many people are off today. Send a good letter today.

I’ve been with my girlfriend since I was 18 (we’re both 28 now). I love her so much. After a big fight where I went too far (kicked her out of our house), I apologized and told her I want to be back together. She replied that she doesn’t know what she wants – which seems like a weird answer.

I know we shouldn’t ignore the fight and act like nothing happened, but at least she should know that she wants to be back with me, right?

The fight was about a suspicion of mine that she was doing something dodgy. In general, we rarely fight. Where do we go from here? What should I tell her?

– Sorry

You kicked your girlfriend out of the house. That means she doesn’t have to know anything right now.

She might be worried that future fights will lead to the same ugly place. Or maybe she had issues with the relationship before all of this, and now she’s taking some time to think about whether she wants to return.

She can love you without knowing whether she wants to be with you. She’s probably wondering whether the two of you have the kind of love that fuels a thoughtful, happy, respectful relationship.

Ask her if you can talk about her concerns. When you have that conversation, really listen.

Do not pressure her for final answers or a plan.

– Meredith

Readers? Can you help this LW?

Breakups 🖤