I cheated. He won't forgive me.

Tuesday | August 20, 2024

Love Letters Breakups 🖤

I cheated. He won’t forgive me.

Hi Meredith,

I’m in my late 30s and my ex-boyfriend is the same age. We had been together for eight months.

Unfortunately, I cheated on him. He is feeling very hurt by it – and that’s why we recently broke up.

I’d like to get back together, but when we see each other, he doesn’t kiss or show affection. He claims it’s due to him struggling with the pain I caused him.

I recently had a family loss. He came over and we were intimate – but nothing more. I told him I need some emotional affection, too, but he says he can’t give it at the moment.

Also, he has made mean comments over my appearance and other things . He refuses to say sorry for these comments it won’t be a loss if we break up for good.

I am unclear if I should wait this out, but it feels we only text and have sex. Do you have any advice?

– Broken Up?

You really slide right through the cheating part of this letter. You don’t tell us how it happened, why you did it, or how your ex-boyfriend found out.

I wonder if you’ve done the same thing with your ex. Does he understand why you cheated and what the experience meant to you? Do you understand?

Did you intend to sabotage the relationship? If it’s unclear to us, maybe it’s unclear to him.

Regardless, my advice is to treat this ex like and ex, leave him alone, find support from other people, and look inward. People cheat. It happens. Some couples can get over it and move on together. That isn’t happening here, and now you’ve got another problem: he’s not being nice to you.

There’s nothing to wait out. Instead, think about how you can build a happier life with a more supportive community. This is a good moment to do something different.

– Meredith

Readers? Have you been with someone who cheated and wanted things to go back to the way they were? What else is happening here?

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