I think it’s easier for the hurt person to find a new place. Not because it’s what’s fair, but because the old place might make them miserable anyway. The already-sad person might as well surrounded themself with new people and scenery – new everything. 

That said, sometimes the place in question is too important to abandon. Let’s say it’s a venue where a hurt person did a hobby that kept them happy. There might not be many roller rinks around town (just picking a random example). If the location is essential, they might want to continue going, but maybe after a short break.

There are no rules for this, obviously. It’s a case-by-case thing.

In your case, if you’d be open to having this person at your old haunt again, you can let him know with a quick message (and make it clear that’s the only reason you’re reaching out).

I hope there is no more heartbreak in your future. But if there is, this experience is good to remember. Maybe instead of telling someone you need them to disappear, you can take a little break and see how your needs change over time. Every summer is different.

– Meredith