Dear Meredith,

I’ve been in two serious relationships in my 20s. They both ended because ultimately I concluded I was too different from each boyfriend to ever see a life with them. In both cases, we disagreed on basic decisions (how to spend our money, where to eat, where to live, what type of family life we envisioned) so the idea of spending my life with them overwhelmed me rather than excited me. The experiences have left me cynical about love. I can no longer watch romantic comedies (terrible, I know) and I’m not even sure I believe a healthy relationship is possible.

I recently met someone new. He’s completely different from the people I’ve dated in the past and very attentive, so much so that I start to doubt he’s sincere. He calls exactly when he says he will and follows through on every plan. I know I should be excited, but my past has made me overly skeptical. I’m scared I’ll get attached only to be sorely disappointed by some major flaw that will reveal itself. We seem to have a surprising amount of things in common, our conversation flows naturally, and we have a similar sense of humor. But I also worry that it’s possible he just agrees with everything I say and that he’d be the same with anyone.

Am I right to be doubtful of this? Are people who seem too good to be true usually just that? Or am I supposed to let go and enjoy it? Any input is appreciated.
Thank you.

– Too Good To Be True