Meredith,

I am divorced with two kids. Last May, I began dating a woman who was also divorced with two kids. We connected instantly and we both agreed that we had finally found “the one.”

After about two months of dating, her child had a relapse of a disease, and she told me we could only be friends. I understood and told her that I wanted to stand by her and help her through it, but she did not want that.

When her child’s health began improving, we reconnected. It was like we had never stopped dating, and we were in love. Our kids met and things were great, and I spent Christmas with her family. In January, she met my parents and friends, and everything was wonderful. Or so I thought. After meeting my parents and friends, things went downhill very quickly. Her attitude toward me completely changed. She dumped me two weeks later. I tried to fight it but she wanted no part of me.

We talked off and on over the next few months, and she blamed the breakup on many issues: me, her job, her past, selling her house, and her child’s illness. I made it very clear that I wanted to go through everything with her but again she pushed me away. She admitted she wasn’t being fair but offered no real reason why she didn’t want me in her life anymore and doesn’t want to speak to me. It has now been six months since the breakup and I think about her every day and am struggling to let go. My heart just can’t quit. I’ve tried online dating again but all I do is compare every woman to her. I am angry that one day she wanted to meet my family and kids and the next she wanted no part of them. Where do I go from here?

– WTF Man